Why Wait to Date

It’s Valentine’s Day tomorrow so let’s talk about dating. Let me give you a scenario—you are 15 and you want to date…

That’s it. Oh wait, that is your situation RIGHT NOW? How interesting. You are now part of a club that goes back generations. It is full of teenagers who are not quite 16 that wanted to date. Some waited and some didn’t. Now that you are in this club what are you going to do?

We’ve been told by prophets that we shouldn’t date until we turn 16. Here comes the question that was once or currently is on everyone’s mind: WHY?

The number one reason I can think of is because it just isn’t necessary. You will have, (hopefully) years to date. What is the rush? Also, think back to or think of your current 15-year-old self. For me I was so awkward. I didn’t even know how to look a boy in the eye let alone talk to him on a date. Maybe you are/were more mature at age 15. That is fair, however, while you are thinking of all the things you are capable of—now think of all you aren’t capable of. Can you drive? Can you pay for things? Can you handle the temptations that tend to come from dating? The answers may be different for everyone.

In 1975, (yes, 1975!), Elder Vaughn J. Featherstone said, “Now my dear young friends, the Lord doesn’t always tell us why. We simply get direction and sometimes have to trust. Often your parents will not be able to tell you why they feel you shouldn’t date until you are 16; the bishop cannot give you all the reasons. All they know is that they feel at peace in their heart about this decision; and that is probably the greatest answer that can be given.”

I have never met anyone who said, “I’m so glad I dated when I was 15!” It is usually, “I’m so glad I waited to date until I was 16!”

There is a true power in obedience. Rather than be sad you aren’t on a date tomorrow or this weekend why not get your friends together for a Galentines party? I’m married and I still do this now! The chance to celebrate friends, eat chocolate and have a dance party should not be missed.

Best of luck as you hold on and wait to date.

Oh yeah, Happy Valentine’s Day.

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A 32-year-old mother of two and wife to Brett. A lover of all things covered in sprinkles, organizing and anything New York City related. Currently calling Amsterdam home.

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  • Michelle Lehnardt
    February 13, 2017 at 10:33 am

    I love this post Ashley! I’ve seen up close the wisdom of waiting to date and it makes such a big difference!